Latley I have been thinking about my ex latley. I don't know why. People break up when things are not going as they should. We broke up 3 years ago. And I have had a few relationships since then.
When we broke up I was not able to talk to him and had a lot of pent up anger. I could not talk to gin without being grumpy or mean. As time went on I no longer have any anger and can talk normal.
I'm friends with him on Facebook and he posted some cute pics of himself. Why? Why? Why can't I stop thinking about him? I even sent him a message and he replied with a long message about what's going on in his life and what he's got going on. He lives in another state and I guess he has a conference here at the end of the year.
I need to gather up some strength to stop thinking about him. And fast because I'm wanting to text him and suggest that we should see each other so he can see my (his old) dog. :-/
Does this mean I didn't get over him because I thought I did years ago? But if I haven't how do I and perhaps this is why I always sabotage relationships?
I'm confused...
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i feel your pain babygurl! sounds like you do still have feelings for him.... ahhh exs... keep your chin up! I have faith you are strong!
hey girl, i don't know you--ran across your blog quite by accident--but i do have a keen understanding of men in general so i wanted to leave you a chunk of advice if you don't mind. :)
you obviously still have feelings for him, so WHEN you see him you have to be STRONG! guys don't like clingy, needy, or begging. be cool, laid back, confident, and look AMAZINGLY HOT when he see's you! be coy and flirtatious, but a bit aloof also, don't make him feel like you've been pining over him. don't reminisce about old times unless it's about FUN old times. if anything comes up about a time when you acted like a bad girlfriend, smile, roll your eyes and say, 'wow, i can't believe i acted like that. thank goodness i grew out of that stage!' :)
my guess is that once you see him again, he might not live up to that 'perfect man that got away' like you've built him up to be in your head over these past 3 years...and just when he takes the 'girl-trick bait' you might not even want him back anymore. that's what i call having the relationship come full-circle, and thus you'll be truly ready to move on and leave him in the past.
if he DOES measure up and is still a great guy, i wish you the best of luck on your second chance!!
just remember that diamonds are the most coveted stones because they are rare and hard to get--so be a diamond! :)
good luck,
jaime
(unsolicited advice giver) :)
I remember Dr. Drew saying that it takes at least 6 months to get over someone. During that 6 mos. any type of contact with that person whether it be phone, email, text, FB whatever and the 6 mos. starts over again.
It's also natural that you still have feelings for him. He meant something to you and your life...perhaps he was a "first" of some kind...first love? if so, it' always hardest to get over/ let go of a "first". I think we all hold special places/ties in our hearts.
You are strong :)
I just happen upon your blog and love the way you express your thoughts.
We're in the same dilemma, lately too I have been thinking of my ex havent seen him for more than a year now and like you, we didnt talk well when we broke up...
Hard to say what you (we) should do to get our exs out of our heads, it's really confusing there are so many what ifs running on my mind concerning him.....
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For petey's sakes! Grow up and stop whining....if you still have feelings for him, tell him. He may or MAY NOT have the same feelings for you. And whether he does or doesn't, at least you will have told him how YOU feel.
Then MOVE ON.........
If you miss him and want to see him again, say to him, "I miss you and would like to see you again. Let's do dinner sometime."
Shoot, you may find out he's a real doofus and not the "fantasy" guy you remember. Or, he could be just what you remember and miss and the old sparks will fly again.
My two cents (from a fifty-something woman....)
i feel your pain babygurl! sounds like you do still have feelings for him.... ahhh exs... keep your chin up! I have faith you are strong!!!chinese style prom dresses
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